By Neil Earle
Just yesterday I was driving back from one of our wonderful community events here in my adopted hometown of Duarte, California (pop. 23,000) – our annual Route 66 Parade, Picnic and Car Show.
My co-announcer for the local DCTV Cable station has spent her life in public relations. She helped transform Gene Autry’s reputation from singing cowboy to community visionary back in the 1970s. She knows people. “Things are so hate-filled right now,” she said, “you can’t even talk to people about the election they are so divided.”
I threw in that the bleak economic situation might tend to make people worse at least for a while. “The Black Week” the Economist called September 15-19 when our economy teetered on the brink for a few days.
My co-host had just come through a scary battle with cancer so she had her prioritites well in view. City parades and picnics make you think a lot about community – or as my Hispanic friends might say – unidad, communidad, familia.
This got me thinking how only last week I was reflecting, praying, thinking, praying, mediating, PRAYING about how to deal with some chronic “people problems” in our congregation. It seemed that the Holy Spirit calmly and sanely spoke to me: “Don’t forget kindness, Neil.” It was almost like a mother’s voice except it wasn’t a voice but rather a calm, insistent, warmly expressed massaging of my frazzled ministerial psyche.
Immediately I turned to Galatians 5:22-26, the Fruits of the Spirit chapter. I read again about “love, joy, peace, gentleness, goodness, kindness…” There it was. Kindness. It was still there. Listen to William Barclay:
“Kindness and goodness are closely connected words. For kindness the word is chrestotes. It, too, is commonly translated goodness. The Rheims version of 2 Corinthians 6:6 translates it ‘sweetness.’ It is a lovely word…Old wine is called mellow (chrestotes root). Christ’s yoke is called chrestos (Matthew 11:30), that is, it does not chafe…chrestotes can only help. Trench says that Jesus… showed chrestotes when he was kind to the sinning woman who anointed his feet. The Christian needs that goodness (a different word but linked) which at one and the same time can be kind and strong.”
Thanks. Nice work, Barclay.
If you stopped to think about it, the essentials of good human relationships have been seen to revolve a lot around kindness. See how it works. I wrote this for a book some time back. Here are points of human relations. Some of them you’ll already know.
Saint Francis put it this way: “Make me a channel of your peace, where there is hatred let me bring your love…O Master grant that I may never seek, so much to be understood as to understand, to be consoled as to console, to be loved as to love with all my soul.” Wow. This is the core attitude to develop in meeting challenges in such a way that peace is maximized and friction is kept to the margins. God help us to reach those heights occasionally.
And all of these principles work better when animated by kindness, one of the ingredients of love. Water has H20, salt has sodium chloride, and love has big heaping dollops of kindness. Paul said it in the Love Chapter – “love suffers long, and is kind.” Yes, people make you suffer but Biblical love is expressed not with a sense of martyred tightfistedness but kindly.
Thank you, Holy Spirit. I needed that reminder. Badly. Amen.
Compiled with the help of Myron Rush, Management: A Biblical Approach; The Royal Bank of Canada’s “On Being a Mature Person;” Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving.